The drawing at the right is from Kara Bishop's website. She works with children of divorce. Her website can be found at the hyperlink listed below. Tough stuff. Sad stuff. Divorce is too easy. http://www.postcardsfromsplitsville.com/index.html
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
WHAAAAATT??
Rita Smith, Executive Director, The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, said the following in a statement she issued on January 9th...
"...The questioner's facts were not accurate, and exhibited a widely held belief that men are denied custody without due process and for no real reasons. My experience while working in this field for over 25 years is that just the opposite is true. Mothers are far more likely to lose custody when it is contested..."
WHAT?
GIVE ME A BREAK
Does this give you any indication how "anti men" the NCADV (didn't want to spell it out again and upset my computer) is? WOW. Is it any wonder they so fiercely defend the horrible Violence against Women act? The rest of her piece is just as bad. If you have a strong stomach and want to read the rest it can be found here.. http://www.prnewswire.com/cgi-bin/stories.pl?ACCT=104&STORY=/www/story/01-09-2008/0004733977&EDATE=
I don't know about you but I found it appalling.
LAW GETS IGNORED
"Under current law, judges decide custody cases based on the 12 factors delineated in Michigan’s Best Interest of the Child Test."
From my recent experience in a Michigan divorce the Judge does not decide. The friend of the Court is who decides this. When my ex wanted sole custody and I wanted 50/50 custody and parenting time we had to fill out a long questioner answering questions about the 12 factors that are to determine custody. Then the FOC interviewed the family and told us how it was going to be. The Judge would only rule on the custody decision that the Friend of the Court made if the divorce went to trial. Very few divorces (less than 5%) actually go to trial so the Judge never needs to rule on the decision that the FOC made. Even if the divorce does go to trial, the Judge usually simply accepts and calls into law the recommendation from the friend of the court.
The Friend of the Court decides the fate of the children and the parenting time for the parents!
SO.. why make the point that I have?
Remember that the FOC (at least in Michigan) is very crooked. They intend to maximize the parenting time for the mother regardless of what is best for the children. They get paid more federal dollars if they assign more child support. They will max out the parenting time for the mom so she can collect the max support thus generating the max money coming to the FOC from the Government. It is really that simple. It is really that broken. It is really that bed.
Quite a system we have here huh?
Broken!
Do You think this is what is best for our children?
I'm just one guy who lost the bulk of his time with his young children to a crroked system here in Michigan. Dig around my blog for a ton more detail from credible sources including a former FOC Officer Carol Rhodes and see what others have to say. Go to the 2007 entries and find the one about House Bill HB4564 and bug Brenda Clack to quit hiding this bill under her desk and lets get it into action. All the future children if Michigan divorces need your help.
Please!
Thank you!
"Under current law, judges decide custody cases based on the 12 factors delineated in Michigan’s Best Interest of the Child Test."
From my recent experience in a Michigan divorce the Judge does not decide. The friend of the Court is who decides this. When my ex wanted sole custody and I wanted 50/50 custody and parenting time we had to fill out a long questioner answering questions about the 12 factors that are to determine custody. Then the FOC interviewed the family and told us how it was going to be. The Judge would only rule on the custody decision that the Friend of the Court made if the divorce went to trial. Very few divorces (less than 5%) actually go to trial so the Judge never needs to rule on the decision that the FOC made. Even if the divorce does go to trial, the Judge usually simply accepts and calls into law the recommendation from the friend of the court.
The Friend of the Court decides the fate of the children and the parenting time for the parents!
SO.. why make the point that I have?
Remember that the FOC (at least in Michigan) is very crooked. They intend to maximize the parenting time for the mother regardless of what is best for the children. They get paid more federal dollars if they assign more child support. They will max out the parenting time for the mom so she can collect the max support thus generating the max money coming to the FOC from the Government. It is really that simple. It is really that broken. It is really that bed.
Quite a system we have here huh?
Broken!
Do You think this is what is best for our children?
I'm just one guy who lost the bulk of his time with his young children to a crroked system here in Michigan. Dig around my blog for a ton more detail from credible sources including a former FOC Officer Carol Rhodes and see what others have to say. Go to the 2007 entries and find the one about House Bill HB4564 and bug Brenda Clack to quit hiding this bill under her desk and lets get it into action. All the future children if Michigan divorces need your help.
Please!
Thank you!
More kids losing their dads!
More dads losing their kids!
When are people going to stand up and get angry?
Do something, demand that something gets changed.
Here is another dad who lost his children the hard way like I did. We find out after it is too late that the war was over before it began. All our efforts, valid reasons, examples, etc..for naught. The system was going to give the children to the mom anyway! Remember? The friend of the court has to max out the child support to the mom so they receive the maximum cash payment from the federal government for themselves.
With this current setup why would they ever give the kids fair time with their dads?
Lose money for the courts?
No way.
Screw the kids. Screw the dads.
Feed the Court$!
Larry Holland lost his kids in Michigan because of just such incentives. A little from Larry Holland's blog ...
" He was involved in a family court case in the State of Michigan. After not understanding why the system was so bent on separating him from his children, Lary began studying the legislation and federal programs that support the family court systems across America. He had lost before the case had begun, because the States receive steep financial rewards for the creation of "court ordered absent parents." He vowed to educate the public and begin removing government intrusion one subject matter area at a time."
See Larry's blog here http://www.laryholland.com/ .
Larry is an associate member of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children (ACFC).
Spend a little time at their informative website http://acfc.convio.net/site/PageServer?pagename=homepage
Thanks for stopping by.
I hope you will spend a little time and read my other entries.
This is really very important stuff and lots of Children are suffering under the current laws.
More dads losing their kids!
When are people going to stand up and get angry?
Do something, demand that something gets changed.
Here is another dad who lost his children the hard way like I did. We find out after it is too late that the war was over before it began. All our efforts, valid reasons, examples, etc..for naught. The system was going to give the children to the mom anyway! Remember? The friend of the court has to max out the child support to the mom so they receive the maximum cash payment from the federal government for themselves.
With this current setup why would they ever give the kids fair time with their dads?
Lose money for the courts?
No way.
Screw the kids. Screw the dads.
Feed the Court$!
Larry Holland lost his kids in Michigan because of just such incentives. A little from Larry Holland's blog ...
" He was involved in a family court case in the State of Michigan. After not understanding why the system was so bent on separating him from his children, Lary began studying the legislation and federal programs that support the family court systems across America. He had lost before the case had begun, because the States receive steep financial rewards for the creation of "court ordered absent parents." He vowed to educate the public and begin removing government intrusion one subject matter area at a time."
See Larry's blog here http://www.laryholland.com/ .
Larry is an associate member of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children (ACFC).
Spend a little time at their informative website http://acfc.convio.net/site/PageServer?pagename=homepage
Thanks for stopping by.
I hope you will spend a little time and read my other entries.
This is really very important stuff and lots of Children are suffering under the current laws.
Monday, December 17, 2007
Monday, December 10, 2007
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It aint my fault
I know a woman, I was married to her until "death do us part", who got a divorce. I guess she didn't like that part. Anyway, needless to say, she escaped. Michigan, like every other state, allows "no fault" divorce. If the other spouse is opposed to the divorce, that alone is an irreconcilable difference, justifying the divorce, ha ha. This is the greatest invention in the world. Take all the money both spouses have, when that runs out tap their families for a while. The attorneys get rich. The courts get rich. The children suffer.
Just so you understand the basics, a no fault divorce simply means a spouse just wants a divorce. She (oops, sorry) I mean the spouse who wants the divorce simply fills out the forms and the ball gets rolling. A fault divorce would be when one spouse points a finger and says our marriage is shot because of him, uhh, that person I used to be in love with enough to stay married for a dozen years and make 5 beautiful babies with. Divorce is cool if you are a woman with children. You can lean on the system in a million ways and do quite well for yourself. I know a woman who gets all her and the kids food for free, she gets daycare for free, medical and dental benifits for free, etc. Did I mention that she gets to keep all of her income and most of mine, sorry, her ex-spouses money (tax free). Criminy, these women are smart. They get it all. This is the best part... Live in a state or county where you get most of the time with the kids. More money, yay.
That's right, the less time the dad actually gets to see of his kids, the more it costs him. Didn't I tell you this was a great invention. Fault, no fault, what is the difference? It is going to continue to happen. If the women continue to benifit like they currently do it will get worse. If the women didn't have so much to gain from a divorce, if it wasn't so profitable, maybe a few more children would see both their mother and father every day. If the attorneys and the court systems didn't make so much money from divorces maybe they would encourage people to try to stay together.
Children need time with their dads!
Please click on the link here and read/react to the plea from me and all the children, present and future, who suffer from broken homes in Michigan.
http://helpchildrenofmichigan.createfreeblogs.com/30/Help+the+Children+of+Michigan.html
I thank you for the tens of thousands of children and fathers this bill will help out in the future.
Many states already see the value of equal parenting time and start that way right out of the chute with a divorce. Michigan needs desperatly to catch up with the times.
Please click on the link here and read/react to the plea from me and all the children, present and future, who suffer from broken homes in Michigan.
http://helpchildrenofmichigan.createfreeblogs.com/30/Help+the+Children+of+Michigan.html
I thank you for the tens of thousands of children and fathers this bill will help out in the future.
Many states already see the value of equal parenting time and start that way right out of the chute with a divorce. Michigan needs desperatly to catch up with the times.
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