Another Powerful must read..
The list of people writing about the injustices to children post-divorce is growing. That is a good thing! The children have been abused for far too long by the institutions who stand to gain by the current laws and something must be done. Big changes need to be made to save our children, our families, and our country. Read this moving enrty here..
http://www.opednews.com/maxwrite/diarypage.php?did=7378
I know it is hard to change current laws, especially if the ones making the laws will lose revenue. Is it possible that our country can see the future, see the gains made with the needed changes? The money being spent in the courtrooms, in the "friend of the court" (notice it isn't friend of the family or friend of the children), spent in jails, welfare, etc would be more than made up if we were a society where children had TWO parents in their life. Think about how much less our government would spend on correctional facilities, public handouts, etc. if divorce wasn't so easy, if the children didn't automatically go to the mom, if the dads were not automatically made out to be the bad guy in a divorce, if more children had their dad as a bigger part of their lives.
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Another Poll (shared parenting)
We can do better than 88%. Please hit the link below and put in a vote for the kids!
Here is the link to the Detroit News poll asking if parenting time should be 50/50 post-divorce.. http://info.detnews.com/redesign/forums/feedback/lettersindex.cfm?topic=Parenting .
We can do better than 88%. Please hit the link below and put in a vote for the kids!
Here is the link to the Detroit News poll asking if parenting time should be 50/50 post-divorce.. http://info.detnews.com/redesign/forums/feedback/lettersindex.cfm?topic=Parenting .
Monday, May 19, 2008
WOW WOW WOW..
Here it is again..
How many ways do we have to see it, hear it before something gets done about it?
The courts and the FOC (friend of the court) get paid more money from the federal government when they assign and enforce higher child support.
There are a ton of other equally astonishing and alarming links included on this page.
PLEASE...
Check it out here.... http://www.scribd.com/doc/630611/A-Quick-Summary-of-Title-IVD-Funding-and-Incentives
Lots of good reading.
Thanks for the great site!!!
Here it is again..
How many ways do we have to see it, hear it before something gets done about it?
The courts and the FOC (friend of the court) get paid more money from the federal government when they assign and enforce higher child support.
There are a ton of other equally astonishing and alarming links included on this page.
PLEASE...
Check it out here.... http://www.scribd.com/doc/630611/A-Quick-Summary-of-Title-IVD-Funding-and-Incentives
Lots of good reading.
Thanks for the great site!!!
Imputed income .. The amount a person is able to earn, even if s/he currently is not earning at that level. Here it is from dictionary.com.. im·put·ed
/ɪmˈpyutɪd/ –adjective
estimated to have a certain cash value, although no money has been received or credited.
Wow, bummer for me. I have been unemployed for almost a year. Things are mighty tough here in Michigan as you might have heard. When a family (mom and dad that are married and their kids) fall on hard times and income is low they adjust and learn how to get by. Work hard at odd jobs, eat less fancy foods, accept some charity from friends, church, etc. It is amazing how much less income you can actually get by on when you really have to. I know, I've been there, am there.
NOT SO IF YOU ARE DIVORCED!!!
The state and county does not care in the slightest about the current economic conditions or lack of jobs available. The dad will pay as much as the state/county sees fit no matter what his income is or he faces JAIL!
What a system. I petitioned my local friend of the court to temporarily reduce my child support because I do not have a job and can not afford to pay the currently enforced amount of child support. They almost laughed at me. Needless to say they gave me no relief and even said that I was lucky they were not increasing my support obligation. What happened to living a little leaner during tough times. My children's mom gets all the help available from the state, all her income, and tax-free cash from me in the form of child support. I, in the meantime, live in poverty.
No wonder far more divorces are initiated by women than men. They "think" there is so much to gain by it. Sadly the women, post divorce, find out that their quality of life is lower than ever. Meanwhile, interestingly, the mans quality of life is almost always higher. Don't believe me? Look up the stats.
What does all this mean? Maybe if women were not offered such a succulent carrot on a stick that propels them into divorce, maybe if the local government and all the attorneys didn't profit so much from divorces a few more marriages would endure. Maybe more children would get to have a full time mom and dad in their lives. Maybe, like we have seen proven so many times, there would be less fatherless children as a drag on society. Maybe our great country would turn out more high achieving adults to compete with the rest of the world. Maybe vows to God would be honored. Maybe..(you get the point).
/ɪmˈpyutɪd/ –adjective
estimated to have a certain cash value, although no money has been received or credited.
Wow, bummer for me. I have been unemployed for almost a year. Things are mighty tough here in Michigan as you might have heard. When a family (mom and dad that are married and their kids) fall on hard times and income is low they adjust and learn how to get by. Work hard at odd jobs, eat less fancy foods, accept some charity from friends, church, etc. It is amazing how much less income you can actually get by on when you really have to. I know, I've been there, am there.
NOT SO IF YOU ARE DIVORCED!!!
The state and county does not care in the slightest about the current economic conditions or lack of jobs available. The dad will pay as much as the state/county sees fit no matter what his income is or he faces JAIL!
What a system. I petitioned my local friend of the court to temporarily reduce my child support because I do not have a job and can not afford to pay the currently enforced amount of child support. They almost laughed at me. Needless to say they gave me no relief and even said that I was lucky they were not increasing my support obligation. What happened to living a little leaner during tough times. My children's mom gets all the help available from the state, all her income, and tax-free cash from me in the form of child support. I, in the meantime, live in poverty.
No wonder far more divorces are initiated by women than men. They "think" there is so much to gain by it. Sadly the women, post divorce, find out that their quality of life is lower than ever. Meanwhile, interestingly, the mans quality of life is almost always higher. Don't believe me? Look up the stats.
What does all this mean? Maybe if women were not offered such a succulent carrot on a stick that propels them into divorce, maybe if the local government and all the attorneys didn't profit so much from divorces a few more marriages would endure. Maybe more children would get to have a full time mom and dad in their lives. Maybe, like we have seen proven so many times, there would be less fatherless children as a drag on society. Maybe our great country would turn out more high achieving adults to compete with the rest of the world. Maybe vows to God would be honored. Maybe..(you get the point).
Here is the bar that dads have an extremely tough time reaching... Shared economic responsibility (SER) The circumstance in which a noncustodial parent has a child with him/her frequently enough (at least 128 overnights annually) to be considered directly contributing to the child's care.
As long as the dad gets less than 128 overnights then he just visits his children. The mom technically, supposedly, has all of the economic responsibility. This is what the moms want because it will maximise the child support they can collect from the children's father.
Forget about any financial help for the dad because he has the children less than half of the time. I'll see my children well over 150 days over the next year. Every other weekend and one full half of summer vacation, Christmas break, and spring break they will be with me over night (24 hours a day). That is a lot of meals, entertainment, presents, etc. Does not matter. The mom gets the same amount of child support (the Max!) as if she was taking care of them 365 days a year 24/7. She gets the daycare support from the state, all the food stamp money for the children, and maxed out support from the dad. I have asked my children's mother if she would be willing to share any food, since she only has the children half of the time, over the summer vacation. Not a single crumb was offered. I asked the state for help and was told it (the food money) was only available to the mom because the children lived with her over half of the year. No splits, no help for the summer when they are with the dad half of the time. Hmm. I then sent a couple of emails to congressman Mike Rogers asking him if there was any help available but got no response.
As long as the dad gets less than 128 overnights then he just visits his children. The mom technically, supposedly, has all of the economic responsibility. This is what the moms want because it will maximise the child support they can collect from the children's father.
Forget about any financial help for the dad because he has the children less than half of the time. I'll see my children well over 150 days over the next year. Every other weekend and one full half of summer vacation, Christmas break, and spring break they will be with me over night (24 hours a day). That is a lot of meals, entertainment, presents, etc. Does not matter. The mom gets the same amount of child support (the Max!) as if she was taking care of them 365 days a year 24/7. She gets the daycare support from the state, all the food stamp money for the children, and maxed out support from the dad. I have asked my children's mother if she would be willing to share any food, since she only has the children half of the time, over the summer vacation. Not a single crumb was offered. I asked the state for help and was told it (the food money) was only available to the mom because the children lived with her over half of the year. No splits, no help for the summer when they are with the dad half of the time. Hmm. I then sent a couple of emails to congressman Mike Rogers asking him if there was any help available but got no response.
Detroit News article raises awareness for children getting equal time with both parents. See it here.. http://detnews.com/apps/pbcs.dll/frontpage .
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